NEW FOR MEN: THE ONE HOUR ERECTION TECHNIQUE
Sex therapists say that in order to extend sexual response, both partners should learn more about their physical and mental control systems. Mental control involves learning to concentrate by narrowing the individual focus of attention. The goal of mental control as a means of extending sexual response, such as erection, is to filter out and eliminate distractions.
Without our realizing it, our thoughts can be like background noise, causing us to be distracted at the most inopportune moments. One technique for focusing your concentration and taking control of your thoughts is a countdown exercise. Sex therapists recommend this technique because, with practice, it will enable you to eliminate distractions and focus on sexual enjoyment and response.
In the countdown technique, you simple close your eyes and count backwards, slowly, from 20, all the way to zero. If you are distracted by an unwanted thought, proceed with your countdown, taking up with the last number you remember. This technique of counting backwards from 20 as a means of helping you focus your attention, will probably require a good bit of practice before you are able to eliminate all distracting thoughts. The key to maintaining an erection for up to one hour, lies in your ability to concentrate.
Another technique often recommended by many sex therapists is the “Sensate focus technique”. The aim of this technique is to make each partner more aware of his or her bodily sensations during intercourse. Men who have practiced this focus technique with their partners have reported great success in extending their sexual response.
The Sensate focus technique involves three basic steps:
1) Each partner gives the other as much pleasure as possible by caressing and fondling any part of the body except the breasts or genitals.
2) This stage of the technique progresses to stimulation of the genitals and breasts, but should stop short of orgasm.
3) The final stage of the Sensate focus technique is sexual intercourse. Both partners should concentrate on pleasure and enjoyment rather than on orgasm. The main goal of this technique is not orgasm, but rather extending the sexual response.
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